Friday, 23 January 2015

Energy Therapy for Sexual Abuse Survivors

All my life I have been in contact with or, have known someone close to me who has experienced sexual abuse on some level. It has impacted my own family in a very serious and harmful way. I personally feel it is one of worst crimes, and yet, rarely are the cases reported, and if they are, rarely do the perpetrators go to jail or, get the punishment that would be “deserved”. 

For statistics regarding these incidents in Canada, please visit For statistics in America, in general, please visit I hope this will help make victims see they are not alone and, how important it is to speak out. Also, for those who were not aware of these numbers and, have not been a victim, to realize, an awareness and action for change, needs to be done.

Why I am speaking about this now is because I am part of a network, called, where petitions are set up and, you can sign them, to help make a difference. Recently, an especially important one came to me recently, regarding the curriculum in Ontario schools. For more details about this petition and to hopefully sign it, please visit

After receiving this petition, it reminded me of how important this subject is to me and I wanted to share it from an energy therapist perspective as well. Energy therapy does just relieve stress or anxiety but, it can help you heal and let go even the deepest of wounds. Although, like any practice in dealing with these type of wounds it can take some patience and time. And, a real desire to heal and let go. Also, depending on the severity of the present emotional state or of the event(s), energy therapy would also be best used in conjunction with other support systems as well.

Ultimately, my hope is that these awful occurrences happen less, or ideally, not at all. But, in order for that to even start happening, the survivors need to be able to speak out about it, report it and heal it. Then, comes the strength to make the changes necessary, such as, stopping the cycle of abuse, and making it harder for perpetrators to get away with it. Almost always perpetrators are repeat offenders, so if it happened to you, it happened to many others. The more people that come out, the more it will be undeniable that the perpetrator is guilty.

In order to assist in this process of change, I am willing to do my 1st sessions free with survivors of sexual abuse. I am not saying that it is a worst issue than anything else, but, it is an area I am very familiar with, in terms of the repercussions. Also, it is my small way in helping support these victims, as it is one of the most unreported crimes but yet, one of the most harmful.

So, if you have been a survivor of any sexual abuse crime and would like help in healing those wounds, please contact me at Remember, I hold information confidential and, with energy therapy you do not need to report specific details of the incident, nor will you be obligated to tell me who the perpetrators are. It is completely up to you, on what and, who you tell this information to.

If you do not contact me, I understand but, I hope with all my heart that you are able to not only survive through those incidents but also thrive in life, heal and be at peace.

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Tuesday, 13 January 2015

Part 2: Get Empowered: Separation of the Self, from Family

Thank you for waiting for the second part of this post. I wanted to separate it, so it would be easier to digest. When we are looking at matters of identity, we can be challenged in many ways, and may not want to look outside of that “box”. If you haven’t read Part 1, please do so, as it will prepare you for this next section.

Now, that maybe your mind is bit more open and, you had time to digest and, contemplate what it means to be a part of your family but, also a separate identity, I would like to point out a few more views, before I provide an important exercise.

As I mentioned before, it is in your best interest to separate yourself from your family, so that progress can be made. Despite the obvious point that we don’t want to continue bad habits or, do things like continue the “cycle of abuse”, we can still make progress. No one or no one’s family is perfect. With an awareness, we can all agree on this.

I don’t encourage to focus on all the mistakes your parents made or, the “bad” things in your family. But, I do encourage you to be aware of them, so you are less likely to do the same.  After this awareness has come into place, you may notice you have already slipped and repeated these things. Not to worry though, because as I said, you don’t have to identify with these things and, can make a new choice today, or at any moment.

Once, there has been an improved course of action made, when this new awareness is brought, I encourage you to take the good things, and try to expand them. For instance, if your family is a generous bunch to each other, maybe you want to take that to the next level and, give back to your community and other families?

Before the exercise, there are also two aspects that need to be looked at, to understand the process. First, as an Energy Therapist, I see all the time that people not only engrain certain aspects of their family, into their mental concept of identity, but also into their energy field. That is why when they “let go” of a certain trait, it can feel almost physically painful, as it may have been with them for a long time. Possibly, even since birth, since many of us adopt these energies through past ancestors as well.

Another aspect of this topic, is that of the ego. I am sure this term has been brought to your attention more than once, but many still have a hard time adjusting to its lesson and concepts. A great resource to really bring awareness of the ego, is Eckhart Tolles' books. “The Power of Now” is a perfect start, but also to get even deeper, my favourite would be “A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose.”

In a nutshell, the ego is simply a by-product of our mind and is not truly who we are. The ego is what identifies things as good or bad, and attaches to our families for the support of these concepts of “who we are”. But as mentioned before, who we are, is actually a huge community of similar cells and DNA. And, who we are is our spirit.

In order to ever recognize your spirit and to know in fact, you have one, you have to separate yourself from your ego. Your ego is what manipulates, starts arguments, creates power struggles, and really is the main root of our suffering. And as you may have guessed: yes, it also identifies you with your family and latches on.

I doubt anyone wants to go backwards and regress in life and, most likely if they do, it is not them, it is their ego thinking it is “safer” or “better” for them.  So, let’s get started on separating from your ego and your family, so you can progress. As, it is our spirit/ true self that wants to inherently do so.

Step 1: Close your eyes and take at least 3 deep breathes and try to quiet the mind. Turn off any distractions if you need to. If thoughts come into your head, simply “watch” them and let them pass. Try not to get “attached”. If you catch yourself doing so, simply bring your focus back to your breath. 

Step 2: Stay in this place of peace for at least a few moments.

Step 3: Open your eyes and write down in one positive word what you felt in the moments of silence. Was it peace? Safety? Joy?

Step 4: Write down beside this positive word, “This is who I am.”

Step 5: Take your EFT chart out (if you have one). If you don’t have one, contact me at or sign up to our e-newsletter on and I will send you one.

Step 6: Tapping on the karate chop point say aloud, “Even though I have let myself be controlled by my past, family and/or ego, I now give myself permission to separate myself from my ego and family for the betterment of my future. I am ______ (fill in blank with positive word determined before). And I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself. “Repeat this 3 times.

Step 7: Move to other points, tapping 7/8 times on each one, while saying short phrases of the long one presented above, such as; “releasing past” , “giving permission to separate”, “ I am _____”, etc.  You can move through all the points for a few rounds.

Step 8: Take at least 1 or 2 deep breathes in and, come to that place of silence again, while closing your eyes. Stay here a few moments.

After trying this process, if you need assistance, have any questions or concerns, about the aspects or topics mentioned, please feel free to contact me directly or leave a comment below, and I would be happy to get back to you and assist.

I truly hope this exercise has brought some empowerment, awareness, peace or other feel-good feelings to your life today. If it has not, or even if you have any feedback you would like to share, I would love to hear it.

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Saturday, 10 January 2015

Part 1: Get Empowered: Separation of the Self, from Family

We often pride ourselves on being a part of our families. We do things like; insist on keeping our last name, not hesitating to tell people of an ancestor who has contributed to society, in some way.

Or, when we are “embarrassed” of our family’s past, even if we had nothing to do with it, we often hide it completely, or tell only close friends. We even do things like; never talk about our family, or never bring people home to meet who is there.

Although it is normal and natural to identify yourself with your family, it is not all of who you are. Even if, where you came from is something to be proud of, it still is only their accomplishment isn’t it? Even if you supported and encouraged them or, helped in the result, the outcome is still separate from who you are.

You may be reluctant to admit this but, if that same accomplishment completed by another family member, was then demolished by a harsh truth (such as an illegal activity) you would quickly discard that as a part of your family, wouldn’t you? You would say you had nothing to do with it and, it is not who you are.

Well, you are right. It is not who you are but, neither is the honest accomplishment made by another ancestor that your family may be known for.

You may wondering what my point is, as it seems a bit harsh. However, I think it is an important subject to talk about, as so many of us struggle with our families. And one of the main reasons for this, is this very topic of being attached or detached from them.

Although, yes, we may have similar physical attributes, gestures, even personality traits, we are NOT our family. Instead, a better way to determine your identity, is to see yourself as a product of creation itself, instead.

Why? You may ask. Well, it is quite simple but, may need a complicated explanation, which is why this is only part 1. I will cover more details and, an exercise you can use to help gain more confidence, empowerment and self-awareness, in the 2nd part of this article.

First, I will get to my main point and a new awareness I have come to, just today. In reality, humanity shares almost identical DNA. This DNA and the cells that it is made of, are the same and, work the same way. It is also “powered” by the same source. We not only share our basic nature with each other but, we also share 96% DNA with chimpanzees!

If we are so similar wouldn't this make us more identifiable with our families? Well, no actually, because you can almost be just as closely related to chimps, as well. This is not an argument for evolution vs. creation or vice versa. In fact, I am pointing this out, to share how they can be one in the same.

You have been created by your parents and are “related” to your siblings and extended family. However, there is also room for evolution. For example, just because your parents smoke, it does not mean you have to. Their behaviour does not define you. The older you get, the more you can make independent decisions on what is best for you and, your future.

If we let the past control us, we can’t evolve. And what would the world look like now, if we never evolved from the days that most of our family members were racist, or when we burned people on a stake? Not very good, would it?

It is important to separate ourselves from our family, even if our family is loving and amazing, because there is still always room for progress. Next time, I will go further into why that is and, a way you can do this for yourself as well.

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Monday, 8 December 2014

The Power of Your Unconscious Mind and What You Expose To It

I learned something today that I think is so valuable, that I must share it. I hope that you will read this article fully and, take something from it.

It doesn't do any good “knowing” a lot if you aren't going to implement it, into your life. I realized this recently and, noticed that, even with obtaining a wealth of knowledge, I have not been very good on truly putting into practice.  In some departments, I have done this well but others (and the ones that need most improvement), I have not. However, learning this lesson about the unconscious, made me come to this conclusion as well. It is always nice when one lesson, really gives you two or more! So, I encourage you to find a way to incorporate what you learned from this article, starting today.

The lesson I am speaking of, is one that incorporates not only the mind, but also, I believe your energy. Many of us, more than ever, are bombarded with media streams of information. It is almost impossible to get away from it. Yet, at least half of what you are ingesting through these means, is 
either useless or negative.

I’m sure many of you have heard the term, “you are what you eat”; well, I also believe, you are what you learn. By learn, I don’t mean necessarily in a school manner but, without realizing it you are learning how to behave, think and even feel through what you watch, listen to and read. You can try your best to be the most present and not to “take in” the bad, but your unconscious mind and energy field will absorb it, whether you like it or not. Although, being present and consciously aware does help in that you won’t “absorb” as much.

Knowing this, is kind of scary isn’t it? People may say, “oh, I can’t be brainwashed” and think they are above this but sadly, the more they deny their vulnerability, the more likely they are to be brainwashed! If you are not aware of something, how can you protect yourself from it?

I am not advising to never watch, listen or read anything “negative” ever again. But it definitely would not hurt anything! Except, the only downfall is that you may look at the world with rose coloured glasses and, not know the harsh reality of the world. But, if you are always in a positive space, you will continue to attract positive things and people into your life. Therefore, “your world” will be different.

We may not be able to control what others do or, the world outside. However, we do have more say in our life than we think. If we choose the positive things in life, than those can only increase. You may not be immune to any tragedy ever happening because, that is the unfortunate thing about life, but, you will be able to deal with it and, move to a more positive place, a lot quicker.

All in all, you will be more balanced, energized, positive and at peace. As I mentioned before, your unconscious mind is also a direct reflection of the energy field you are in. If your thoughts are negative, than your energy will be negative. And with that, you will only repel positive things and people.

For instance, I am sure many of you have experienced being around someone who is negative. Think about not only how put off you were by what they said or did but, remember the feeling you got when you were around them. In my experience, I have felt “dirty” like I rolled in mud, or felt heavy in my heart or shoulders like they just threw a boulder on me. What you are feeling in this instance, is their negative energy seeping onto yours.

Although there are ways to “protect” yourself energetically or spiritually, it is better to choose to not be around that person. Or, choose to not watch that scary movie, or read that scary book. You have a choice to bring good into your life, why choose the opposite?

You can start with something simple, like choosing not to watch the news. It is mostly negative and quite frankly, pointless. Unless, you need to watch the weather because of your work or a trip you are going on, what value does it really hold in your personal life? Think about this for a minute and, ask, ‘when was the last time watching or reading the news somehow made my life better?’ I personally can’t think of anytime. And if it has, by chance, how often?

Also, another thing about news is people love to talk about it so reality, you don’t even need to watch to find out about something important, because I am sure your neighbour, friend, colleague or otherwise will let you know. And even that, you can choose to say, “Sorry, I don’t want to hear about this, unless it is positive, or, it is going to prompt me to prepare for something (ie. a tornado).” It is no offense to them, it is just taking responsibility for your own life and, what you choose to have in it.

If you are feeling like you are dealing with a lot of negative subconscious and energetic baggage that may have accumulated of the years and, you want a clean slate, contact me at, and I would happy to get our started! Remember, I also offer Skype sessions and distance healing, for those not in my area.

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Tuesday, 2 December 2014

Self-Care is Vital for a Healthy Life

I used to think that putting yourself first, or taking care of yourself in any way was selfish. Also, I had and still have this instinct or pull, to attend to others’ needs first. Some may even call this a maternal instinct. Yet, even for you moms out there, this rule, I am about to talk about still applies to you!

For example, as mothers, I am sure you do everything and anything for your kids. Which is amazing and honorable. But, you can actually be doing even better than you are now, but taking a moment and taking care of yourself first.

Think about it, if you were only to feed others around you, you would starve and then not be there in the future, to make them food, in the first place! Or, say you stayed up all night watching your child sleep to make sure they had a good rest. Well, in the morning you would be awfully grumpy and would not be able to perform the rest of your duties, at your best. You could even be putting yourself and your child in danger, say if you had to drive them to school that morning.

I realize these are extreme examples, but even at a small fraction of this truth, makes sense, doesn’t it? For instance, burning yourself out and not eating right or sleeping, etc. does make for a less productive and might I add, less pleasant you.

You may be able to do the dishes, clean the house, drive the kids to school and activities, go to work, etc. But really, at the very end of it, do you get to spend quality time with your children? Do they get to see you at your happiest and therefore bring out their best self?? Most likely not, if you are not taking care of you, first. And when everyone is on edge or grumpy, it doesn’t make for a very peaceful household does it?

Not to mention, you are also teaching them NOT to take care of themselves, which leaves an even longer and bigger burden on you for the years to come. Then, resentment builds and puts a wedge between you and your kids.

I am not judging but, the best way to teach people to love you, is to first love yourself. The best way to do this, is to put yourself first. Also, I am not saying to neglect your responsibilities in any way. In fact, I am stating that you will be able to fulfill these responsibilities more efficiently and, be happier doing them!

Although, I used ‘the mother’ example in this, it does apply to everyone. It could even apply someone who does not have a family but, is a humanitarian, who volunteers and works for the community. If this person, doesn’t make sure they eat properly, sleep enough, take some time to treat themselves, they too, will be burned out. And then, their ability to fulfill their commitments will go downhill.

The world in general would be a much better place, if we all looked, loved and healed ourselves. Just imagine what a family get-together would look like if all you and, your family members had all gone to therapy or, got other help and, you were all happy and healthy. There would definitely be more love and less bickering, wouldn’t there?

I know it is idealistic, which apparently, I am; but, it doesn’t hurt to strive for the best, as that is, what we all deserve!!

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Friday, 21 November 2014

Increase Your Self-Esteem and Only Compare Yourself to You

Recently, I had a discussion with a friend of mine and, she mentioned something that struck a chord. It wasn't as if I never heard this before, but for some reason, this time, it really stuck. I remember it was even something my mother always told me but, especially when I was young, it didn't quite sink it. She said, “Don’t compare yourself to others.”

Unless you are the most attractive, richest, kindest, most accomplished, talented person in the world, comparing yourself to others really only leads to low self-esteem. And in any case, things like talent, looks and accomplishments are subjective. So really, there is no point to this task that we too often do. I have figured, it is simply an act of our egos. Comparing means that you are ultimately determining if something or someone is less or more, than the other. And isn't that our ego? As our ego always wants to be better. When in reality, at our core and truth self, we are all the same.

Ego and self-esteem issues rests in the solar plexus chakra (or also known as the navel chakra). This chakra is located just above the belly button and below the chest. The color that often represents this chakra is yellow.  Physical issues that may show due to unresolved matters in this area are things like; weight gain or loss (including eating disorders), heartburn and stomach problems, etc.

This is an area in our society that shows up in many unhealthy ways. It can explain the increasing obesity rates, and the eating disorders that are so prevalent, especially in young women. So, you may ask, why are our egos and self-esteems so out of order? Well, there are MANY answers to that question. But, one of the reasons, that is a small piece, is about comparing ourselves to others.

This is extremely difficult not to do, as in society we are taught from a very young age to do it, through things like; sports, school, contests, and other competing activities. I am not saying competition is not healthy but, it is more about how we teach our kids to participate and, the values we take away from it.

For example, it is best teach that we are all winners as long as we know we tried our best.  I am happy I was never was shamed about my grades in school because if I was, I would have done much worse. And even though I did struggle in the beginning, near the end of my high school career, I was on the honor roll and got into university. This did not come easy, mind you, as what I did, was trying my best, which took a lot of effort at times.

In the opposite scenario, in sports, I was teased a lot and was picked last to be on teams, etc. This of course, just led to a low self-esteem in these areas and I stopped trying. It took me years to start physical activities on my own, from fear of failure.  The only thing I was praised on, or encouraged was dance. So, of course I did continue to do this, in many avenues. But, it wasn't until recent years where I started working out, doing yoga, mountain biking and more!  But I have to admit, “sports” still deter me.

Yet, maybe if there was a more positive, encouraging environment with less emphasis on who is better than who, then who knows, maybe I would have done a lot better in that as well. Or, at the very least, it wouldn't have killed my self-esteem!

Even still, with the tools, blessings, and good advice I have been given over the years, the “comparing myself to others” still haunted me. It wasn't so much as I wanted to be better than others, it was more that, I wanted to be as good as others, instead of feeling like I fall short.

I am grateful for my friend and her wisdom, in waking up something in me, I already knew but did not put into practice.  There are a couple reasons why I think this finally clicked; first, I am at a more spiritual place in my life and have developed and learned the concept of we are all the same. We are made of the same materials and are connected to the same source. Therefore, our quality, at its core is pure and simple and equal.

Second, on a more material view; we have all been dealt a different hand in life. We have different parents, caregivers, teachers, upbringing, events that occurred, etc. Even twins who look the same will still experience the world differently, as they may have different friends or talents, or their parents may treat them differently.  And, let’s not forget, we all have been given different personalities, which include their own strengths and weaknesses. Therefore, on the surface level we have been given different tools to work with.  You can’t expect two totally different people, one with a hammer and the other with a drill, to end up with the same sculpture. 

If anything, I think these differences can be looked at as unique and good qualities. We all have unique gifts that we can express and share with the world, but at the same time, they are all from the same loving source. Taking a step back and breathing in this truth, that ego will mostly likely slip away, and a deep peace will reside, even if it is only a for a minute.

The more we practice to take a step outside of ourselves, to see these truths and, quiet our ego (the “comparing” chatter), the better off we all will be. It can be difficult at first but remember, just try your best, and try often, and you will succeed.

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Wednesday, 12 November 2014

Celebrate Life by Developing Consciousness

I meant to write yesterday but, I did not seem to get a chance to. So it is funny, now, that it is my birthday and I am writing this.  Often people get caught up in presents and other material things when it comes to birthdays, when reality, it simply meant to celebrate that you or I, were gifted with the miracle of life.

To be alive is the greatest gift that anyone could have. I feel blessed to have lived for as long as I have and, to be continuing to live. Although, this world is not always warm and inviting, it is never boring and full of things to enjoy. We have great opportunity to develop ourselves as people and our souls.

Why some get to live and others don’t, is a question, I don’t think can ever be answered. Although, thinking about this question, does put things into perspective. Since, for whatever reason, we are the ones that are living, it must never be taken for granted.

This is usually the most difficult when we are going through rough patches and life doesn’t actually seem worth living. Or, when it is so good, that you may begin to abuse that gift (which is most common in young people). The important element, to make sure you are on even keel and do not swing one way or another, it to be conscious.

I haven’t talked a lot of consciousness and its importance in a fulfilling and meaningful life, but I think it is vital to include this aspect. Consciousness is defined in many different ways but, what I like to see it as is, an awareness. The awareness of our feelings, actions, others’ feelings, the energy around us, what our bodies feel, etc.

When you lose awareness or have lack of it, you may start to take life for granted and do life threatening activities, or self-destruct in some other way. Also, you may step on others as well and, lose friendships or, destroy the most important relationships you have.  Even global consciousness is hugely important as well, as so many wars and other harmful acts have been committed under unconscious mentality. Because, if we as a society and global community, can become more aware of our influence, things like hate crimes may be less committed.

But, it does first start with you. We all need to take responsibility for our own life, appreciate it and strive to be more conscious. In doing so, not only will your own life be better, as you will attract more positive things, but you will also be an inspiration to others and enrich their lives.

To begin developing a more advanced consciousness, the best way, is to work with your energy. And one of the best ways to work with your energy is through consciousness activities such as meditation. You may begin meditating to relieve stress or improve mental clarity, but guaranteed, you will begin to realize the other amazing benefits.

You may begin to appreciate life more and therefore take it less for granted. Or, you may begin to treat yourself and others better, creating more harmonious relationships. In the end, there truly is no downside to developing your consciousness.

The only thing, that I have struggled with from time to time, is having more awareness can actually create a bit of sadness or disappointment, as you see others acting unconsciously all the time. With this awareness, you will see their positive potential but then, to see them not realize that, is a sad affair. But as mentioned before, you can only concentrate on yourself. Eventually, your strength and spirit will have greater influence and, there is comfort in that. Also, as we are mirrors to each other, watching others act unconsciously, is a great reminder, of how important it is to stick with your own mental, emotional and spiritual development.

If meditating is something you find difficult to do (usually a lot of mind chatter). To start, it may best to do something physical while being in that state of consciousness such as; yoga, walking in nature, doing art work, making music, etc. As long as you are present, conscious, and in a positive state, that is all that matters.

Also, to ease into it as well, a great way is guided meditations as it narrows your focus, or having treatments such as Reiki. Reiki brings the positive spirit and consciousness and allows a safe space for you to relax and, be free of your worries. Not only does it do this, but it also allows healing to take place, as the practitioner will work on your energy, chakras, blocks, etc.

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